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[[ Download Kindle ]] Ð I Am Not a Slut ⛅ The Author Of The Groundbreaking Work Slut Explores The Phenomenon Of Slut Shaming In The Age Of Sexting, Tweeting, And Liking She Shows That The Sexual Double Standard Is Dangerous Than Ever Before And Offers Advice To And Offers Wisdom And Strategies For Alleviating Its Destructive Effects On Young Women S LivesYoung Women Are Encouraged To Express Themselves Sexually Yet When They Do, They Are Derided As Sluts Caught In A Double Bind Of Mixed Sexual Messages, Young Women Are Confused To Fulfill The Contradictory Roles Of Being Sexy But Not Slutty, They Create An Experienced Identity On Social Media Even If They Are Not Sexually Active While Ironically Referring To Themselves And Their Friends As Sluts But This Strategy Can Become A Weapon Used Against Young Women In The Hands Of Peers Who Circulate Rumors And Innuendo Elevating Age Old Slut Shaming To Deadly Levels, With Suicide Among Bullied Teenage Girls Becoming Increasingly Common Now, Leora Tanenbaum Revisits Her Influential Work On Sexual Stereotyping To Offer Fresh Insight Into The Digital And Face To Face Worlds Contemporary Young Women Inhabit She Shares Her New Research, Involving Interviews With A Wide Range Of Teenage Girls And Young Women From A Variety Of Backgrounds As Well As Parents, Educators, And Academics Tanenbaum Analyzes The Coping Mechanisms Young Women Currently Use And Points Them In A New Direction To Eradicate Slut Shaming For Good Tanenbaum poignantly argues for the complete elimination of the word slut by deftly documenting how this hurtful word has negatively affected young girls and women in our social media frenzied world Tanenbaum argues that with the increasingly rapid use of social media along with access to smart phones and texting especially among teens , the landscape for how girls and women are viewed by society and how they are perceived by their peers and friends has made the label of slut evendamaging and virulent I Am Not a Slut is an essential contribution to the ever growing dialogue of feminism, slut shaming and rape culture. This is a well written, original, readable, smart, insightful, interesting, useful, deeply depressing book about how social media and cell phones have completely wrecked relations between young men and women If you re a parent or have a guiding influence in a child s life, you really should read this book so you know what they re up against and how you can help them.I took away two main lessons from this book The first is that we need to do a better job of raising boys to respect girls and women I think a lot of us just assume this will happen on its own, but clearly, for a lot of boys, it does not The forces of the mainstream media not to mention pornography, which, oddly, is not discussed here are apparently too strong for many boys to overcome without some kind of countervailing influence.The second lesson is that we need to do a better job of raising girls to stand up for themselves and for what they truly want There are just way too many stories in here of girls and young women doing things they don t want to do date someone, text a naked pic of themselves to someone, sleep with someone, drink too much at parties because they want to be popular or get a particular guy to like them This is not to say these girls are then responsible for the subsequent slut shaming or worse that occurs of course I don t believe that, and Tanenbaum doesn t either but it IS to say that girls and young women really need to learn to exercise sexual agency, and that clearly is not going to happen on its own either.And for god s sake, both boys AND girls need to be taught to stand up for other kids, rather than look the other way or join in when someone is being slut shamed or assaulted Their parents need to remind them that high school and college are going to end and they ll never have to see any of those people again if they don t want to, but they re always going to have to live with themselves.I wish I could say I m optimistic about this, but these sorts of books always leave mepessimistic than ever The scope of the problem is huge, and raising awareness is such an insanely daunting task There are obviously no easy answers, but this book at least asks most of the right questions. I Am Not a Slut Slut Shaming in the Age of the Internet by Leora Tanenbaum is a highly recommended examination of the meaning of slut for young women today.Young women today face a contradictory landscape While they can be encourage to explore their sexuality they can also be humiliated and disgraced based on the same actions or no actions at all but simply at the discretion of others Currently the word slut has a dual meaning and can either be used as a positive, creating a sense of esprit de corps between friends or it is a negative, harmful label that can cause pain well into adulthood Tanenbaum explores the meaning of slut in adolescent and college age women and why the usage of the word is increasing.Tanenbaum s book includes interviews with many young women Their stories and experiences are the examples used to document her points She also examines and distinguishes between the negative acts of slut bashing and slut shaming Slut bashing is verbal harassment where a girl is intentionally targeted because she does not adhere to feminine norms Slut shaming, on the other hand, is a casual and often indirect form of judgment Adding to this already volatile mix is the wide variety of social media outlets that can be used to harass and bully, often anonymously.Women face the ongoing problem that female body parts are regarded as offensive, female sexual activity is mocked as a competitive sport for guys or preyed upon as an opportunity for coercion, and even young girls are reduced to sexual playthings It s easy to understand why young women might internalize their own objectification Tanenbaum makes an argument that, Slut is best regarded as a toxic four letter word that should be quarantined if not buried She makes it clear that we can sharpen awareness that slut is a violent label when females are called sluts, sexual assault and self assault all too often lurk nearby But first there is an important distinction to make here it s not female sexuality that is dangerous, but the sexual double standard I think most women have seen many examples over their lifetime where men have become accustomed to treating women as sexual objects and worthless sluts This is an empowering examination of what the problem is behind the increased use of the word slut and how we can address the societal issues while helping and encouraging young women today Clearly, anyone who currently has any contact with teenage or college age women knows that the all too common use of the word slut needs to be addressed and some encouragement to reassess the use of the word would be beneficial Since these young women use social media constantly Tanenbaum points out that it could be used as a tool for positive change in contrast to the negative we so often hear about.Tanenbaum does an excellent job explaining the problem with many examples, and offers some suggested solutions The book includes in the appendices Do s and Don ts for Parents of Teenagers and College Age Children The Slut Shaming Self Defense Toolkit and a list of ResourcesTable of Contents IntroductionWhat s the Same, What s DifferentAre You a Good Slut or a Bad Slut Slut Bashing Face to Face and in CyberspaceReciprocal Slut Shaming Sexual Identity in an Online World Good Slut Containment Strategies Bad Slut Coping MechanismsThe Rape of a Slut Is RapeCan Slut Be Reclaimed Creative Solutions to Eliminate Slut Appendix A Do s and Don ts for Parents of Teenagers and College Age ChildrenAppendix B The Slut Shaming Self Defense ToolkitAppendix C ResourcesAcknowledgments, notesDisclosure My Kindle edition was courtesy of HarperCollins for review purposes. A really thoughtful and thought provoking exploration of the word slut and the meanings ascribed to it I don t agree with everything Tanenbaum posits a few things I think she overthinks and over academicizes to the point where she herself shames girls for how they appear but for the most part, her arguments are solid and worthwhile I found her discussion of how reclaiming the word slut is not a goal we should strive for at this moment particularly noteworthy and worthwhile It was also refreshing to read views and context from non white women in the text too, especially in regards to the notion of reclaiming and owning the word slut.